Why do loved ones say hurtful things?

Why do loved ones say hurtful things?

This attribution is a double-edged sword: It helps people feel less personally vulnerable, but it can also make them less compassionate. They're just saying what they think they're supposed to say. Often well-meaning people say hurtful things because they're at a loss for words.

Why are we meanest to the ones we love?

The reason we tend to hurt the people we love the most is because that is when we are at our most vulnerable. That is when our barrier is down because we trust that the other will not intentionally hurt us. In intimate relationships, we have a lot of power over each other. We know where each other's “buttons” are.

Why am I so angry all the time?

Everyone has experienced anger. … It's normal and healthy to feel angry from time to time in response to certain situations. But sometimes people experience an uncontrollable anger that often escalates, especially when the provocation is minor. In this case, anger is not a normal emotion but a major problem.

Does the truth come out when you’re angry?

No! When someone is angry, their true purpose is to say things that they know will hurt you. Just because they think of something that is cruel, does not mean it is the truth.

How do you not take things personally in a relationship?

No, what we normally say when angry is not necessarily the truth, but something that makes us feel better about ourselves, justify our own behaviors, and shift blame. Anger is not usually a source of truth. It is not a source of truth. At best it might show how we are feeling at the moment.